I enjoyed visiting my psychologist; she made me see that there was light at the end of the dark tunnel, without the use of pharmaceutical drugs.
The collapse of my marriage was a difficult time in my life; I was a mess. For the first time in my life I experienced shock, confusion, despair, anxiety, fear, and panic attacks, all at once. During that time, making decisions suddenly became a huge effort. I exhausted those closest to me with my irrational thinking, nobody seemed to understand me, so I just cried my eyes out. The depression I was experiencing was also depleting my serotonin (the feel good hormone) on a daily basis, causing me to spiral further into depression. I had to get control of myself; I needed professional help.
I went to my regular GP, and she recommended that I go on a course of anti-depressives. Putting my trust in my doctor, whom I thought knew what was best, (today, I know better) I decided to try the anti-depressives. OMG, after one night of taking the pill, I woke up with the driest mouth in the world, and no appetite. That wasn’t good for me, as the stress in my life had already caused weight loss. Whilst brushing my teeth, my hand began to shake, similar to that of a junkie in need of their next hit. I couldn’t live like that, I felt worse and now I had those horrible, drug symptoms to contend with; that wasn’t the solution for me.
Back at the doctors, I was assured that the effects of the anti-depressant would eventually go away. I told her that I was not comfortable with taking such strong medication and requested that she find me another solution. She then suggested that I go see a psychologist. A psychologist, I thought? “Aren’t they for nutters?” I said. Was I that bad, I wondered? She stopped me and said, “I think you’re referring to psychiatrists.” A psychiatrist has the ability to prescribe medication and studies the mind, and a psychologists’ specific training is in counselling and various forms of therapy. Psychologists are able to work with clients and help with problems like depression, relationship breakdowns, and grief. I agreed to give it a try because anything was a better alternative than medicine.
Finding the Right Psychologist
When it came to choosing my psychologist, I felt like goldilocks in the three bears story when she was testing the porridge. The first psychologist was an older woman who had too soft of an approach, she just handed me a tissue box, and all I did was cry the entire session. The second psychologist was too young, the whole session my thoughts were focused on the fact that I’d met her in my social scene before, and trying to figure out where. Then I found Donna Hughes, a strong-minded woman, (like myself) from the Couch Therapy, and she was just right. I let Donna guide me, and I did the tasks she requested that I do for the week. Soon, my mind become clearer, I was finally on the road to recovery, and I have never looked back.
So, when you need help, pharmaceuticals may not be your solution. They may make you feel good short term, but they are not natural, and can be highly addictive. I recommend that you give a psychologist a try, and don’t give up until you find one that suits your needs.
In Australia, we are lucky that if we get a referral from a GP, we get six sessions with a psychologist of our choice, for free! How good is that?
Has a Psychologist helped you get back on track? I would love more women to share their experiences.
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Psychologists: Gold Coast